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We've had our Christmas decorations up since November 23rd. We've screamed Mariah Carey's All I Want For Christmas at least a billion times already. We've watched every Christmas film I can possible think of on Amazon Prime. Maya has a new Christmas wardrobe. And we've already seen in big man himself, Santa at Winter Wonderland at The Mall Cribbs Causeway. 
But really? When the day is finally here, it all gets a bit too much. It’s a strange one. I know a lot of others have a pretty hard time due to bereavement, family issues, work commitments and so on. But, mine, as a parent is possibly more selfish. When it comes to mental health, I guess you could say that's the trigger point. We are fast approaching the end of the year and I know my mind starts to fill up with mixed messages and thoughts. Have I done enough? Has Maya got enough? What about everyone else? Did I do what I wanted this year? But then, hell yeah... you've done good! I really am proud of where I am now. 
I bloody love the run up to Christmas, and even more so now having Maya. And I’ve actually felt in a much more better place mentally and emotionally during December this year than I did last year and the year before that. 2017 & 2018 were pretty difficult. 2017 Mayas ad had only just moved out so that was all still raw. And 2018 was a first proper year of just the two of us, Maya & Myself. Nothing kills the Christmas joy more than facing it alone with a 1 year old. Thank goodness for family. 
This year we are going to my parents, we are going to be seeing family and I’m really looking forward to eating my body weight in cheese and drinking a mass amount of bubbles, because let's be honest it's quite possibly my favourite hobby. 
Self-reflection: the thoughts that go through my mind to the run up to Christmas & New Years cripple me. I start to dwell on things and overthink everything. I worry myself with things that haven’t even happened yet and probably never will. It's the 'What if's'... 

New Years is a time to refresh. 
It sounds crazy, but whilst I was writing this I felt scared about failing at Christmas & Next Year that I could of actually cried. 
One really important thing I've learnt since being a Mum and especially as Maya gets older, is how thinking ahead and worrying about the future can often ruin the present. Of course that's what I've been doing! But you've got to live in the moment and be present. 
I’ve got a list as long as my arm of things I still have to do with less than 2 weeks to do it in! For my own sanity, I want to complete at least 3 blog posts, I still have gifts to buy, wrapping to start and get the Christmas cards sent. And on top of that the Christmas food shop! Of course not forgetting the cheese and wine!

Being a Mum at Christmas: Is the Pressure Too Much?


We've had our Christmas decorations up since November 23rd. We've screamed Mariah Carey's All I Want For Christmas at least a billion times already. We've watched every Christmas film I can possible think of on Amazon Prime. Maya has a new Christmas wardrobe. And we've already seen in big man himself, Santa at Winter Wonderland at The Mall Cribbs Causeway. 
But really? When the day is finally here, it all gets a bit too much. It’s a strange one. I know a lot of others have a pretty hard time due to bereavement, family issues, work commitments and so on. But, mine, as a parent is possibly more selfish. When it comes to mental health, I guess you could say that's the trigger point. We are fast approaching the end of the year and I know my mind starts to fill up with mixed messages and thoughts. Have I done enough? Has Maya got enough? What about everyone else? Did I do what I wanted this year? But then, hell yeah... you've done good! I really am proud of where I am now. 
I bloody love the run up to Christmas, and even more so now having Maya. And I’ve actually felt in a much more better place mentally and emotionally during December this year than I did last year and the year before that. 2017 & 2018 were pretty difficult. 2017 Mayas ad had only just moved out so that was all still raw. And 2018 was a first proper year of just the two of us, Maya & Myself. Nothing kills the Christmas joy more than facing it alone with a 1 year old. Thank goodness for family. 
This year we are going to my parents, we are going to be seeing family and I’m really looking forward to eating my body weight in cheese and drinking a mass amount of bubbles, because let's be honest it's quite possibly my favourite hobby. 
Self-reflection: the thoughts that go through my mind to the run up to Christmas & New Years cripple me. I start to dwell on things and overthink everything. I worry myself with things that haven’t even happened yet and probably never will. It's the 'What if's'... 

New Years is a time to refresh. 
It sounds crazy, but whilst I was writing this I felt scared about failing at Christmas & Next Year that I could of actually cried. 
One really important thing I've learnt since being a Mum and especially as Maya gets older, is how thinking ahead and worrying about the future can often ruin the present. Of course that's what I've been doing! But you've got to live in the moment and be present. 
I’ve got a list as long as my arm of things I still have to do with less than 2 weeks to do it in! For my own sanity, I want to complete at least 3 blog posts, I still have gifts to buy, wrapping to start and get the Christmas cards sent. And on top of that the Christmas food shop! Of course not forgetting the cheese and wine!


Below is the best way to shop Maya's Christmas Wishlist! (click on the titles)... Please kindly note, that these are not affiliate links. Just recommendations and ideas of where items have been purchased items from or are available. This is not what I have all bought for myself but a mixture of items that are gifts from Myself, her Dad & Family members. 


Disney Princess Playdate Maximus Horse








Dino Disney Princess Pink Girls Bike with Doll Carrier - 12" Mag Wheels









A Three Year Old's Christmas Wishlist


Below is the best way to shop Maya's Christmas Wishlist! (click on the titles)... Please kindly note, that these are not affiliate links. Just recommendations and ideas of where items have been purchased items from or are available. This is not what I have all bought for myself but a mixture of items that are gifts from Myself, her Dad & Family members. 


Disney Princess Playdate Maximus Horse








Dino Disney Princess Pink Girls Bike with Doll Carrier - 12" Mag Wheels










My new found attitude to dating: if I want it, then go after it! Write that message... say something witty, give some banter! Chances are they don't reply, but I'm just putting it out there! I can't be bothered to sit round and wait for someone to message me first... hello, it is the 21st century! I'm not just going to wait until its "my turn" for someone to tell me they fancy me! 
So when the younger generation started singing the praises of  Bumble, (if you don't already know, it's a dating app that puts women in control by only allowing the woman to send the first message to a match)! I wasn't convinced, but after a while of using it, I was on a roll!.
And then there's Tinder ....
LEFT

LEFT

LEFT

LEFT
Oh hey there… RIGHT! (could you be MR RIGHT?!)

And that's it... over and over again, getting matches but strangely no one actually talks! Since I can remember it's been the 'thing 'for a guy to message first. Well helloooooo, this girl isn't going to wait!

And just like that, even after matching with your potential 'Mr Right' and receiving a message back, us women seem to be slow at replying. So many of us treat it as a gaming app. Its like Super Mario collecting stars... Swipe Right... Match! Swipe Right... Match! Swipe Right... Match! Yes! three in a row – bonus prize! 

So onto pictures.... The conversation starter!

Here's a few standard picture surnarios you tend to come across time and time again without fail....

Beach pics - You like the beach... you like the sun... tick!

Mountain pics - Well done, you've walked up a mountain.... you won't catch me doing that!

Dog pics - Awww cute but I do not swipe just because of your dog. 

Skiing pics - You must have money. Skiing trips don't come cheap. 

The Selfie - This seems to mandatory. Every single guy will have a selfie pic... or 2... or 3. 

Kid pics - Your flaunting your child, a child on a dating app?! It's a no from me! I'm all for men with kids but there is a time and place and a dating app is not it. 

Groups pics - So you don't actually have a clue which one you've just swiped for!

One pic - Sorry babes but I'm not swiping based on one picture, uh-uh!

I think it stands to reason that dating is just an single adults 'game' of Super Mario Kart! Saying that though, at least the women are in the driving seat with Bumble and rightfully so! 

Bumble was created by the former co-founder of Tinder, Whitney Wolfe. She left Tinder and launched a case against the company after a legal showdown of  alleged sexual harassment and discrimination

So it really is about empowering women. And on top of that can you believe it, she’s only 26!!!
Yes babes! Goals!

Dating! Is It All Just A Game?


My new found attitude to dating: if I want it, then go after it! Write that message... say something witty, give some banter! Chances are they don't reply, but I'm just putting it out there! I can't be bothered to sit round and wait for someone to message me first... hello, it is the 21st century! I'm not just going to wait until its "my turn" for someone to tell me they fancy me! 
So when the younger generation started singing the praises of  Bumble, (if you don't already know, it's a dating app that puts women in control by only allowing the woman to send the first message to a match)! I wasn't convinced, but after a while of using it, I was on a roll!.
And then there's Tinder ....
LEFT

LEFT

LEFT

LEFT
Oh hey there… RIGHT! (could you be MR RIGHT?!)

And that's it... over and over again, getting matches but strangely no one actually talks! Since I can remember it's been the 'thing 'for a guy to message first. Well helloooooo, this girl isn't going to wait!

And just like that, even after matching with your potential 'Mr Right' and receiving a message back, us women seem to be slow at replying. So many of us treat it as a gaming app. Its like Super Mario collecting stars... Swipe Right... Match! Swipe Right... Match! Swipe Right... Match! Yes! three in a row – bonus prize! 

So onto pictures.... The conversation starter!

Here's a few standard picture surnarios you tend to come across time and time again without fail....

Beach pics - You like the beach... you like the sun... tick!

Mountain pics - Well done, you've walked up a mountain.... you won't catch me doing that!

Dog pics - Awww cute but I do not swipe just because of your dog. 

Skiing pics - You must have money. Skiing trips don't come cheap. 

The Selfie - This seems to mandatory. Every single guy will have a selfie pic... or 2... or 3. 

Kid pics - Your flaunting your child, a child on a dating app?! It's a no from me! I'm all for men with kids but there is a time and place and a dating app is not it. 

Groups pics - So you don't actually have a clue which one you've just swiped for!

One pic - Sorry babes but I'm not swiping based on one picture, uh-uh!

I think it stands to reason that dating is just an single adults 'game' of Super Mario Kart! Saying that though, at least the women are in the driving seat with Bumble and rightfully so! 

Bumble was created by the former co-founder of Tinder, Whitney Wolfe. She left Tinder and launched a case against the company after a legal showdown of  alleged sexual harassment and discrimination

So it really is about empowering women. And on top of that can you believe it, she’s only 26!!!
Yes babes! Goals!



What I've Learnt Over The Past 3 Years...





A bit of a different but honest post from me today. Today I'm going to share with you 5 things about the reality of being a single mama (and don't worry it's not all bad) but I want to be honest. I'm one for sharing all the positives of our life and love doing so but it's not all as easy as I make out. I hope in writing this that there's another single mama out there reading this and will be able to relate. So here it is, 5 things I've learned over the past three years through my journey of single parenting Maya... 


Guilt. 

There is a side to bringing a child on your own that so draining and that's the side of always being the only person around. At times I get so sick of Maya wanting me and shouting me constantly. I know all kids can be wingy but when your the only one around, patience can wear thin. Don't get me wrong I no doubt feel hugely guilty for getting tired or cross but sometimes it can get too much! At the end of the day I am only human though and it can get exhausting being the only one there at times.

Alone Time? Ha!

Take a nap they say, sleep when she does, have a bath when she's in bed! If only ah! I could well say I never ever get any time to myself when Maya is around. Maya is now in state pre-school which has actually lighten the load a bit as I get 2 hours 45 mins free everyday to get on with chores, but in that time I'm either doing to house work or a food shop! Generally though most of the time I can't even have a bath so I find it easier now to jump in with her. You could say I rarely get to go anywhere on my own, so yeah a nice evening wined and dined or spa day is never in sight for me. Obviously don't mind but now and again would be bad, especially as the 'tantrum threes' game is strong right now.

Loneliness. 
It goes without saying that I love Maya, she is my whole life, my world and seriously I love it just being the two of us. I moan about it but secretly I love sharing a bed with her and having her all to myself the majority of the time. She is an angel and we have the most amazing bond (she's definitely a Mummy's girl!). But (and that's a big but) ... it does get lonely. I get days where everything is just a bother. Im sure I'm not the only one here, but I'm the only to raise her, care for her and provide for her on a daily basis. Yes, I know I am more than capable of doing so, but it does get lonely sometimes. No one likes to admit they are lonely so it's something that I don't share or talk about at all. I like to keep and show a positive mindset. Sometimes it does weigh on me though and I think that boils down to anxiety if I'm honest!

Rewards.
Maya is generally so well behaved (apart from the present tantrum threes) but she is such a cute, caring and loving little girl and I'm so proud that she's mine. The feeling I get knowing I have raised her by myself and seeing what a clever, smart and beautiful little princess she is, is just the best most amazing feeling ever. I'm just winging it day by day, I have no idea what I'm doing but she really is a doll. Putting the stress and guiltiness aside that I sometimes feel, I could not be without her. This mamahood malarkey is such a rollercoaster of emotions but at least we can all say, we are trying our best and that's all we can do! 


The Bond.

People say when you have a daughter you have a best friend and it's definitely true. I mean there really is no better bond than a Mother & Daughters but when your doing it alone, its amazingly special and such a tight bond. Maya has an amazing bond with her Nannie & Bampi which absolutely melts my heart but sometimes even they won't do! It's always "Mama". I love it though. At night she will always ask "whose bed tonight Mummy". She just has to be playing with my hair and cuddled into me. There's so many adorable sweet things she says and it literally melts me. The love and bond our relationship has untouchable. 

Five Single Mama Truths




What I've Learnt Over The Past 3 Years...





A bit of a different but honest post from me today. Today I'm going to share with you 5 things about the reality of being a single mama (and don't worry it's not all bad) but I want to be honest. I'm one for sharing all the positives of our life and love doing so but it's not all as easy as I make out. I hope in writing this that there's another single mama out there reading this and will be able to relate. So here it is, 5 things I've learned over the past three years through my journey of single parenting Maya... 


Guilt. 

There is a side to bringing a child on your own that so draining and that's the side of always being the only person around. At times I get so sick of Maya wanting me and shouting me constantly. I know all kids can be wingy but when your the only one around, patience can wear thin. Don't get me wrong I no doubt feel hugely guilty for getting tired or cross but sometimes it can get too much! At the end of the day I am only human though and it can get exhausting being the only one there at times.

Alone Time? Ha!

Take a nap they say, sleep when she does, have a bath when she's in bed! If only ah! I could well say I never ever get any time to myself when Maya is around. Maya is now in state pre-school which has actually lighten the load a bit as I get 2 hours 45 mins free everyday to get on with chores, but in that time I'm either doing to house work or a food shop! Generally though most of the time I can't even have a bath so I find it easier now to jump in with her. You could say I rarely get to go anywhere on my own, so yeah a nice evening wined and dined or spa day is never in sight for me. Obviously don't mind but now and again would be bad, especially as the 'tantrum threes' game is strong right now.

Loneliness. 
It goes without saying that I love Maya, she is my whole life, my world and seriously I love it just being the two of us. I moan about it but secretly I love sharing a bed with her and having her all to myself the majority of the time. She is an angel and we have the most amazing bond (she's definitely a Mummy's girl!). But (and that's a big but) ... it does get lonely. I get days where everything is just a bother. Im sure I'm not the only one here, but I'm the only to raise her, care for her and provide for her on a daily basis. Yes, I know I am more than capable of doing so, but it does get lonely sometimes. No one likes to admit they are lonely so it's something that I don't share or talk about at all. I like to keep and show a positive mindset. Sometimes it does weigh on me though and I think that boils down to anxiety if I'm honest!

Rewards.
Maya is generally so well behaved (apart from the present tantrum threes) but she is such a cute, caring and loving little girl and I'm so proud that she's mine. The feeling I get knowing I have raised her by myself and seeing what a clever, smart and beautiful little princess she is, is just the best most amazing feeling ever. I'm just winging it day by day, I have no idea what I'm doing but she really is a doll. Putting the stress and guiltiness aside that I sometimes feel, I could not be without her. This mamahood malarkey is such a rollercoaster of emotions but at least we can all say, we are trying our best and that's all we can do! 


The Bond.

People say when you have a daughter you have a best friend and it's definitely true. I mean there really is no better bond than a Mother & Daughters but when your doing it alone, its amazingly special and such a tight bond. Maya has an amazing bond with her Nannie & Bampi which absolutely melts my heart but sometimes even they won't do! It's always "Mama". I love it though. At night she will always ask "whose bed tonight Mummy". She just has to be playing with my hair and cuddled into me. There's so many adorable sweet things she says and it literally melts me. The love and bond our relationship has untouchable. 

Tuesday evening Mum, Maya and Myself were invited to the Press Night of Madagascar the Musical at the Wales Millennium Centre, Cardiff.

OMG! It was AMAZING! 

We arrived early-ish so we could get an opportunity to meet the Penguins (cast of the show). It is amazing how good their voices were, it felt like we were at home watching the movie!  



After meeting the Penguins, we headed for a drink prior to the show starting and met up with a few other blogger Mums and their girls. It was so nice seeing them all play together and see how excited they all were. 

The musical was fantastic! Maya & Mum absolutely loved it! It was so funny with plenty of adult-ish humour! The characters where hilarious. The dancing and singing was outstanding and got everyone up dancing along. 


The show lasted around 1 hour 40 minutes in total including intervals so it was an ideal time for little ones. Maya did actually fall asleep half way through but up until then she was loving it! It had been a long day for her. 

The musical is currently on its UK Tour and available to see at the Wales Millennium Centre up until Sunday 11th August. 

I did manage to do a little Q&A with Maya this morning about the show and this is what she had to say;

Mama - "So Maya, did you enjoy the show last night?"

Maya - "Madscar?"

Mama - "Yes, what was your favorite bit?"

Maya - "The donkey" (shes means Marty the Zebra!!)

Madagascar The Musical, Wales Millenium Centre (We like to Move It, Move It!) | AD


Tuesday evening Mum, Maya and Myself were invited to the Press Night of Madagascar the Musical at the Wales Millennium Centre, Cardiff.

OMG! It was AMAZING! 

We arrived early-ish so we could get an opportunity to meet the Penguins (cast of the show). It is amazing how good their voices were, it felt like we were at home watching the movie!  



After meeting the Penguins, we headed for a drink prior to the show starting and met up with a few other blogger Mums and their girls. It was so nice seeing them all play together and see how excited they all were. 

The musical was fantastic! Maya & Mum absolutely loved it! It was so funny with plenty of adult-ish humour! The characters where hilarious. The dancing and singing was outstanding and got everyone up dancing along. 


The show lasted around 1 hour 40 minutes in total including intervals so it was an ideal time for little ones. Maya did actually fall asleep half way through but up until then she was loving it! It had been a long day for her. 

The musical is currently on its UK Tour and available to see at the Wales Millennium Centre up until Sunday 11th August. 

I did manage to do a little Q&A with Maya this morning about the show and this is what she had to say;

Mama - "So Maya, did you enjoy the show last night?"

Maya - "Madscar?"

Mama - "Yes, what was your favorite bit?"

Maya - "The donkey" (shes means Marty the Zebra!!)

Ok, so it's Friday night, I'm in bed at 8pm with the bubba next to me and all I find myself doing is scrolling through Instagram oooo-ing and ahhhh-ing over little pictures. Let's be honest, that's all it is; images on a screen! It's not real, it's just very small pixels. Like the majority of people (ok I probably speak for myself on this one) but you must of guessed I'm not your average 'technical’ kinda gal. The majority of the time my pictures are out of focus, slightly blurry and always edited on my iPhone using PreviewIt’s a very scary thought but we live in a world full of judgment. Nine times out of ten, what we do will be posted on social media. We are all guilty of it, myself included but social media is for sharing. And what do they say... "sharing is caring". I can honestly hold my hands up and say that I over share. Pictures of the 'perfect' life all prepped with #lifegoals #hairgoals #mamagoals. Why do we share so much? Are we boasting? But I genuinely don’t we are. Is this just the world we live in now? Sharing our everyday life has become the norm. 

We’ve all become our own social media executives, marketing our lives in the ultimate filter, Clarendon. Seriously though, is there a line between taking something seriously and it being a serious obsession? We all love a good filter and a possible editing but when it goes to editing a photo for several minutes, to posting it, deleting it, to reposting it. Surely this isn't cool or healthy. 

So what we are all obsessing over is just square images on a phone. Say we delete our account from today then it will no longer exist. Did it really ever exist then? Yes self-promotion is vital for growing our blogs/businesses but remember to take a step back and disconnect from the bull shit of the Instagram world. Look at your life in the real world and not through a filter. 

If something/someone isn’t benefiting you then do you really need it in your life? Be the best that YOU can be, push yourself and live your life the way you want to. It's your reality. We are not made to like the same things, have the same opinions (we wouldn't be in the middle of Brexit if that was the case, but let's not go there!). I guess what I'm getting at it if you don’t like someone unfollow them. It really is that simple. 

Your Feed... Your Way! But Are We Obsessing Over Instagram?


Ok, so it's Friday night, I'm in bed at 8pm with the bubba next to me and all I find myself doing is scrolling through Instagram oooo-ing and ahhhh-ing over little pictures. Let's be honest, that's all it is; images on a screen! It's not real, it's just very small pixels. Like the majority of people (ok I probably speak for myself on this one) but you must of guessed I'm not your average 'technical’ kinda gal. The majority of the time my pictures are out of focus, slightly blurry and always edited on my iPhone using PreviewIt’s a very scary thought but we live in a world full of judgment. Nine times out of ten, what we do will be posted on social media. We are all guilty of it, myself included but social media is for sharing. And what do they say... "sharing is caring". I can honestly hold my hands up and say that I over share. Pictures of the 'perfect' life all prepped with #lifegoals #hairgoals #mamagoals. Why do we share so much? Are we boasting? But I genuinely don’t we are. Is this just the world we live in now? Sharing our everyday life has become the norm. 

We’ve all become our own social media executives, marketing our lives in the ultimate filter, Clarendon. Seriously though, is there a line between taking something seriously and it being a serious obsession? We all love a good filter and a possible editing but when it goes to editing a photo for several minutes, to posting it, deleting it, to reposting it. Surely this isn't cool or healthy. 

So what we are all obsessing over is just square images on a phone. Say we delete our account from today then it will no longer exist. Did it really ever exist then? Yes self-promotion is vital for growing our blogs/businesses but remember to take a step back and disconnect from the bull shit of the Instagram world. Look at your life in the real world and not through a filter. 

If something/someone isn’t benefiting you then do you really need it in your life? Be the best that YOU can be, push yourself and live your life the way you want to. It's your reality. We are not made to like the same things, have the same opinions (we wouldn't be in the middle of Brexit if that was the case, but let's not go there!). I guess what I'm getting at it if you don’t like someone unfollow them. It really is that simple. 


It's never too late to refresh your content and give your blog a boost. Spice it up with loads of exciting new posts to gain the engagement and traffic you want. 
Below I have listed a few blog post ideas to get you started.

 1. What did you learn from the previous year 
2. Fitness Goals
3. Personal Goals
4. Career Goals
5. Blog Goals
6. Child Activity Goals
7. Relationship Goals
8. Holiday Destination Goals
9. Educational Goals
10. Who are you currently obsessing over on Instagram at the moment
11. Child's Birthday Ideas 
12. Financial Goals 
13. Bucket list for the current year
14. Big trends in Fashion your love/hate
15. Best achievements of the previous year
16. Why did you start Blogging? 
17. What can your audience look forward to coming up in the coming year - main focus and any exciting new content/projects coming up! 
18. Mama Struggles
19. Facts About Yourself
20. Family Goals

Blog Post Ideas For Anytime Of The Year


It's never too late to refresh your content and give your blog a boost. Spice it up with loads of exciting new posts to gain the engagement and traffic you want. 
Below I have listed a few blog post ideas to get you started.

 1. What did you learn from the previous year 
2. Fitness Goals
3. Personal Goals
4. Career Goals
5. Blog Goals
6. Child Activity Goals
7. Relationship Goals
8. Holiday Destination Goals
9. Educational Goals
10. Who are you currently obsessing over on Instagram at the moment
11. Child's Birthday Ideas 
12. Financial Goals 
13. Bucket list for the current year
14. Big trends in Fashion your love/hate
15. Best achievements of the previous year
16. Why did you start Blogging? 
17. What can your audience look forward to coming up in the coming year - main focus and any exciting new content/projects coming up! 
18. Mama Struggles
19. Facts About Yourself
20. Family Goals



Before having Maya I was really into my fashion, and I mean really into it! It seems I was born with expensive taste... (unfortunately for my Mum & Dad!)! I was always shopping, on the high street and online and loved a good bargain. I knew what I liked, what suited my petite frame and nine times out of ten I was able to look at something and know it would suit me. I knew my own style. 

Then Maya came along...
I remember sat on the bed a few weeks after Maya was born, crying thinking I had lost myself and didn't feel the fashion loving thirty-something women I once was. I didn't feel comfortable in anything and seemed to have lost all ability to shop. I had forgot how to dress myself and I always seemed to reach for the safe options over style. The majority of the time I was in jeans, a t-shirt and sandals. 

I have heard so many people say they have lost a bit of themselves after having a baby and that's exactly how I felt. I lost my style just like that, without evening noticing and my identity to go with it! It’s only now I can look back and say it took me a good year and a half to get back to feeling like me again. I got my fashion mojo back. Looking back at myself now I hid who I was because I didn't matter anymore and it wasn't about me. I had a newborn baby and my main priority was her and not what I was wearing. 

Surprisingly I went back to my normal pre-baby weight pretty much straight away (i know, i know... not what you want to hear) so finding my style again shouldn't of been a problem. Oh but how wrong was I?! Looking back now all I needed was a boost of confidence and to actually think about me. Yes, I was a Mum now but that doesn't change who I am or what I believed in. 

It was time to give no fucks. 

I have to say though, Instagram and so many amazing blogs have helped me to get back to where I once was. It has given me the confidence to wear things like I used too. I follow some amazing people from Mums to Fashion Influencers but they are all real and so inspiring. Real people, just like you and me who love fashion. So for me, it was a very happy ending and I managed to rekindle my love for fashion . The old me is back! 

The Real Struggle With Fashion



Before having Maya I was really into my fashion, and I mean really into it! It seems I was born with expensive taste... (unfortunately for my Mum & Dad!)! I was always shopping, on the high street and online and loved a good bargain. I knew what I liked, what suited my petite frame and nine times out of ten I was able to look at something and know it would suit me. I knew my own style. 

Then Maya came along...
I remember sat on the bed a few weeks after Maya was born, crying thinking I had lost myself and didn't feel the fashion loving thirty-something women I once was. I didn't feel comfortable in anything and seemed to have lost all ability to shop. I had forgot how to dress myself and I always seemed to reach for the safe options over style. The majority of the time I was in jeans, a t-shirt and sandals. 

I have heard so many people say they have lost a bit of themselves after having a baby and that's exactly how I felt. I lost my style just like that, without evening noticing and my identity to go with it! It’s only now I can look back and say it took me a good year and a half to get back to feeling like me again. I got my fashion mojo back. Looking back at myself now I hid who I was because I didn't matter anymore and it wasn't about me. I had a newborn baby and my main priority was her and not what I was wearing. 

Surprisingly I went back to my normal pre-baby weight pretty much straight away (i know, i know... not what you want to hear) so finding my style again shouldn't of been a problem. Oh but how wrong was I?! Looking back now all I needed was a boost of confidence and to actually think about me. Yes, I was a Mum now but that doesn't change who I am or what I believed in. 

It was time to give no fucks. 

I have to say though, Instagram and so many amazing blogs have helped me to get back to where I once was. It has given me the confidence to wear things like I used too. I follow some amazing people from Mums to Fashion Influencers but they are all real and so inspiring. Real people, just like you and me who love fashion. So for me, it was a very happy ending and I managed to rekindle my love for fashion . The old me is back! 



Who remember's 00's pop icon Daniel Powter?! Well you may not remember him but I know we've all been in his shoes and had a 'Bad Day'. I'm sure we're all guilty of turning the radio up screaming out the lyrics. We've all been there and unfortunately sometimes the system does go on a blink and the whole thing turns out wrong. Well, guess what?... You need a blue sky holiday. Ok maybe not right now but you do need to take a breather every now and again. Seriously, chill the hell out. 

I really should listen to my own advice sometimes...

We all seem to be going hundred miles an hour but the problem with that is, we soon start to lose sight of what's important and lose our heads a little bit! Now, whilst being a marta by constantly working and being the best you can be, you’re kind of holding yourself back. Your definitely not performing 100%. Let’s be honest here, you’re not Mary Poppins. Being a Mum is a full time job on its own so yeah I work every single day in my own right; Monday-Sunday 6am-11pm (ish). On top of that I also have a 'proper job' two days a week and then in between I work on my blog. It feels like a chore sometimes, but sitting down, getting my feelings out there and hitting publish on my blog posts feels like a weight of my shoulders and I can breath again. I've accomplished something for 'me'. But there are times when Maya doesn't sleep at night, she's ill or I'm ill and cracks will show. Stupid ridiculous things start to happen or not happen because I’m clearly not performing. There's times when I can’t sleep properly because no matter how shattered I am, I'm thinking of what we're doing the next day, agendas, meals, whats clothes need washing, the house needs hovering or don't forget to feed the rabbit. My brain is in constant overdrive and it hurts.

I think in modern society though we wear our hectic busy lives like our first expensive handbag or shoes and compare with another's whos the busiest. We tend to see others busy and think we should be busy too.We're all guilty of boasting about our busy diaries with kids parties, day trips, ballet classes, girls night, breakfast and coffee catch up. Busy = interesting... right? I have to disagree. To me it's like someone ordering a skinny latte with a fry up and counting that as being on a diet! News Flash! It doesn't work like that hun.

Don't get me wrong I'm not going to get all zoned out and tell you to start  attending your local yoga class to relax the mind or anything. Although it is about relaxation techniques to help improve energy and concentration. I'll leave that one with you. What I do want to say though, its ok to take your foot off the excelerator a bit, don't be afraid to relax. Chill out. No one will judge you. You are NOT being judged. Put your feet up, grab a magazine and have a cuppa. Got for a walk. Go to the cinema. Mute your phone. Watch some trash TV. Keeping Up With The Kardashians is my go to - do not judge me. 

Why Taking Time Out Is OK




Who remember's 00's pop icon Daniel Powter?! Well you may not remember him but I know we've all been in his shoes and had a 'Bad Day'. I'm sure we're all guilty of turning the radio up screaming out the lyrics. We've all been there and unfortunately sometimes the system does go on a blink and the whole thing turns out wrong. Well, guess what?... You need a blue sky holiday. Ok maybe not right now but you do need to take a breather every now and again. Seriously, chill the hell out. 

I really should listen to my own advice sometimes...

We all seem to be going hundred miles an hour but the problem with that is, we soon start to lose sight of what's important and lose our heads a little bit! Now, whilst being a marta by constantly working and being the best you can be, you’re kind of holding yourself back. Your definitely not performing 100%. Let’s be honest here, you’re not Mary Poppins. Being a Mum is a full time job on its own so yeah I work every single day in my own right; Monday-Sunday 6am-11pm (ish). On top of that I also have a 'proper job' two days a week and then in between I work on my blog. It feels like a chore sometimes, but sitting down, getting my feelings out there and hitting publish on my blog posts feels like a weight of my shoulders and I can breath again. I've accomplished something for 'me'. But there are times when Maya doesn't sleep at night, she's ill or I'm ill and cracks will show. Stupid ridiculous things start to happen or not happen because I’m clearly not performing. There's times when I can’t sleep properly because no matter how shattered I am, I'm thinking of what we're doing the next day, agendas, meals, whats clothes need washing, the house needs hovering or don't forget to feed the rabbit. My brain is in constant overdrive and it hurts.

I think in modern society though we wear our hectic busy lives like our first expensive handbag or shoes and compare with another's whos the busiest. We tend to see others busy and think we should be busy too.We're all guilty of boasting about our busy diaries with kids parties, day trips, ballet classes, girls night, breakfast and coffee catch up. Busy = interesting... right? I have to disagree. To me it's like someone ordering a skinny latte with a fry up and counting that as being on a diet! News Flash! It doesn't work like that hun.

Don't get me wrong I'm not going to get all zoned out and tell you to start  attending your local yoga class to relax the mind or anything. Although it is about relaxation techniques to help improve energy and concentration. I'll leave that one with you. What I do want to say though, its ok to take your foot off the excelerator a bit, don't be afraid to relax. Chill out. No one will judge you. You are NOT being judged. Put your feet up, grab a magazine and have a cuppa. Got for a walk. Go to the cinema. Mute your phone. Watch some trash TV. Keeping Up With The Kardashians is my go to - do not judge me. 



Ok, so I never really got the whole socks with sandals thing: I must of missed the memo. But I do like a nice pair of socks standard! As far as sliders go; there is no doubt they are at least 80% of my spring/summer footwear. But really?!... socks WITH sliders? Worn together?

Its like having ketchup on your Sunday Roast... a BIG fat no no. Uh uh no chance! Don't get me wrong it definitely requires a certain kind of someone to pull this unique look off. Correct me if i'm wrong but that someone you may find sporting a fine tracksuit and downing a litre of White Lightening (does that does still exist?) from the bottle outside your local corner shop whilst your grabbing your mornings milk and bread. That aside... Do I secretly want to be that someone? Call me old fashioned, but I'm thirty-something with a demanding 2 year old in tow... I am definitely not that someone. But, do I miss my carefree younger self? Do I want to pull this look off? 



Will wearing socks with sliders take me back to the younger me? With that in mind, I don't think I want to find out. So, I am leaving it there and leaving it to the professionals who pull it off a lot better than I would. 

You'll find me sipping my strong coffee in a corner  of a neat cafe somewhere wearing my sliders just how I like....




One Fashion Trend I Just Don’t Get! Why?




Ok, so I never really got the whole socks with sandals thing: I must of missed the memo. But I do like a nice pair of socks standard! As far as sliders go; there is no doubt they are at least 80% of my spring/summer footwear. But really?!... socks WITH sliders? Worn together?

Its like having ketchup on your Sunday Roast... a BIG fat no no. Uh uh no chance! Don't get me wrong it definitely requires a certain kind of someone to pull this unique look off. Correct me if i'm wrong but that someone you may find sporting a fine tracksuit and downing a litre of White Lightening (does that does still exist?) from the bottle outside your local corner shop whilst your grabbing your mornings milk and bread. That aside... Do I secretly want to be that someone? Call me old fashioned, but I'm thirty-something with a demanding 2 year old in tow... I am definitely not that someone. But, do I miss my carefree younger self? Do I want to pull this look off? 



Will wearing socks with sliders take me back to the younger me? With that in mind, I don't think I want to find out. So, I am leaving it there and leaving it to the professionals who pull it off a lot better than I would. 

You'll find me sipping my strong coffee in a corner  of a neat cafe somewhere wearing my sliders just how I like....




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I'm Sarah! A single mum in my mid-30s sharing adventures of motherhood with my little best friend! Here you'll find (stylish) motherhood, fashion, travel, beauty and anything in-between xx

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